When I was a child, I attended piano lessons from the age of seven. When I was eleven, I discovered the guitar and at fourteen, the classical guitar. By the age of seventeen, I took the risk of changing from piano to guitar as my first study instrument. I was no longer a pianist, I was a guitarist. I chose an arts college deep in the Yorkshire countryside rather than a well-known traditional University course. This decision changed my life. I loved my time there, and, at the end of my three year degree course, elected not to take my place on the Post Graduate teaching course, but to leave, and start my own business with my then teacher. We ran that business from a rented studio in Chester. This was so far from the plan I though I'd had- to get a degree in music, do a teaching certificate and get a nice, safe job in a school. Although I did eventually go back and get that qualification, I never did teach in a classroom. I became a peripatetic teacher, and have taught in corridors, cloakrooms, gym changing rooms, school kitchens, cupboards, school libraries, the head's office in one tiny, two-class primary school in deepest Cheshire (they had an infants and a juniors-that was it!). But never in a classroom, never with any guarantees of students year by year, term by term. No salary, no sick pay, no paid holidays. I played, I ran courses, I sold instruments, music, accessories. It was precarious but amazing fun.
In my 30s I met a man with two children. I did not want children of my own but I fell in love with this man (and his children) and tried to imagine moving my whole life to where they lived (my home town, so somewhere I knew well). But still, all my teaching, my pupils, my friends, were in Chester. I imagined trying to make his house work for us all. We tried to buy somewhere with the space we needed, but failed. So we extended his home and it became the place we needed it to be. From thinking that my whole life was centred in Chester, here I was, back in Manchester. I loved it. I loved them. I loved this new life, and making my professional world move to a new city too.
Then, in the blink of an eye, the boys had grown, the house was too big, our itchy feet were sending us all over the world on adventures, travelling together. Then came the biggest risk of all. We decided to sell the house that had become such a wonderful home to us all, buy an apartment nearby, and a house in France. This was 2015, nine months before the referendum. We looked at twenty six houses in a week and chose the last one we viewed. We bought it. We worked on it until it became our second home. We stripped wallpaper, we painted, we had a small second bathroom installed, we had an electrician come and earth the building (EEK!). We embarked on our split lives-six months in the UK, in our beloved Manchester with all that city life has to offer, and six months in rural France, the (sometime) peace and tranquility, and the stream of visiting friends and family, all coming to find out and experience what it was that had prompted us to make this move.
Then, on the morning of 24th June 2016, that all changed. And yet it didn't. We awoke to news that we thought we would never hear, and feared the worst. The reality of the end of our freedom of movement became a constant background hum of anxiety. We were staying in France for up to six months at a time, whilst exercising our treaty rights-to be self-sufficient, to have appropriate health cover, to not be a burden on the State or a threat to it (!). The loss of these rights would mean that we would be able to stay in the Schengen region for only 90 days in 180. We would not be able to stay for six months whilst letting our apartment in Manchester. In short, this was a change that would alter the rest of our lives. Worse, it became more and more clear over the months and the years, that it would damage the UK in ways people had not imagined in those years before 2016, when Farage and his party were just a cult-ish party of nostalgia-ridden extremists of whom nobody really took notice.
Since then, we have lobbied, marched, engaged with our MP and MEPs, joined twitter storms, basically done all we can to try to mitigate the damage that brexit is already wreaking on our home country and its economy (even thought we haven't left yet). With every twist and turn of the saga that Brexit has become, we have waited and waited for the worst to happen, and yet, it hasn't. We have not left the EU. I hope and pray that we never will.
And now, we are waiting for the next instalment. We will, within minutes of my posting this, have a new Prime Minister. If it is who everybody is expecting it to be, he will be capricious, dishonest, childish, cruel and dangerous. We can only begin to imagine what changes may come from this eventuality but my reluctance to embrace change has never been more challenged. I find that I am, quite literally, holding by breath.
See you on the other side.
Then, on the morning of 24th June 2016, that all changed. And yet it didn't. We awoke to news that we thought we would never hear, and feared the worst. The reality of the end of our freedom of movement became a constant background hum of anxiety. We were staying in France for up to six months at a time, whilst exercising our treaty rights-to be self-sufficient, to have appropriate health cover, to not be a burden on the State or a threat to it (!). The loss of these rights would mean that we would be able to stay in the Schengen region for only 90 days in 180. We would not be able to stay for six months whilst letting our apartment in Manchester. In short, this was a change that would alter the rest of our lives. Worse, it became more and more clear over the months and the years, that it would damage the UK in ways people had not imagined in those years before 2016, when Farage and his party were just a cult-ish party of nostalgia-ridden extremists of whom nobody really took notice.
Since then, we have lobbied, marched, engaged with our MP and MEPs, joined twitter storms, basically done all we can to try to mitigate the damage that brexit is already wreaking on our home country and its economy (even thought we haven't left yet). With every twist and turn of the saga that Brexit has become, we have waited and waited for the worst to happen, and yet, it hasn't. We have not left the EU. I hope and pray that we never will.
And now, we are waiting for the next instalment. We will, within minutes of my posting this, have a new Prime Minister. If it is who everybody is expecting it to be, he will be capricious, dishonest, childish, cruel and dangerous. We can only begin to imagine what changes may come from this eventuality but my reluctance to embrace change has never been more challenged. I find that I am, quite literally, holding by breath.
See you on the other side.